Do You Have Porous, Rigid, or Healthy Boundaries?

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If someone crosses your boundaries, you...

Get angry or say something sarcastic, I might stop talking to them

 Let it go or ignore it, it is best to sweep it under the rug

Remind them, if they continue I will tell them why I am ending the relationship

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When someone asks for help but you’re busy, you....

Say no, without feeling bad

 Say yes, even if it means I have to change my plans

Say no if I can't, but I may offer help at another time

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How much personal or private stuff do you share with others?

I rarely share good or bad news, even with close friends or family

 I only share when it feels right

I share or sometimes overshare, even with people I don’t know well

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Do you feel overwhelmed by other people’s emotions?

Sometimes, but I can work through my emotions easily

No, I rarely do, their emotions are separate from mine

Yes, I feel like I take on their emotions even if I don't care or want to

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When someone asks for more than you can give or want to give (time, service, money, etc.), you...

I say no or avoid responding altogether, I may ghost them for a time

Say yes, because I don’t want to seem selfish

Set clear expectations on what I can or will do

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How do you react when people have opinions about your decisions or choices?

 I may hesitate on my original decision or may change my mind

I don’t care at all what they think and rarely ask for other's opinions

 I listen, and may take advice into consideration and decide

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How do you feel when you say no to someone?

I feel a little bad, but I know it was the right choice

I feel guilty or worried

I don’t care much at all

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If someone criticizes you, how do you react?

 I feel hurt and take it personally

I consider if there is any truth even if it hurts, and make changes if appropriate

I ignore them or get defensive

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How do you feel when you’re alone?

 I feel lonely or anxious, I have a hard time not having others around

 Although I enjoy being around others, I also enjoy alone time

I feel relieved, I prefer not to be around others

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How often do you feel taken advantage of by others?

 Quite often

Almost never

Sometimes, but not too often

11 / 15

When someone sets a boundary with me...

I respect it, even if it stings or I don't always understand

I don't really care, I may dismiss it altogether or cut them off

I can feel rejected even if they say it nicely

12 / 15

If someone asks for a favor and you’re too busy, you...

Say no politely and explain why

Say yes, even though you’re too busy

Say no right away, without explaining

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When there’s conflict in a relationship, you...

I address the person in a polite manner to try and understand and to take responsibility or seek a resolution if possible

Confront it right away, no matter if the person wants to or not

 Avoid it talking about it or stuff it inside. If the person confronts me, I may deflect or tell a fib

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When someone close is struggling with problems or other issues, you...

 

I often get overly involved and may take on the stress myself  

I might keep my distance, other people's problems cause me stress

I will offer support where I am able, but I maintain my boundaries

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In close relationships, do you feel responsible for the other person’s feelings?

Yes, I often feel responsible for other people's feelings

Not really, other people's feelings are not my responsibility

I may care about their feelings, but know it’s not my job to "fix" them

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